Sometimes we spend so much time clicking away at our keyboards, we don’t stop to listen. If you are a court reporter, this may be fine. But at a conference, or while taking notes at a meeting, this can be a mistake. And don’t forget that even though you can’t hear someone speak their message, their words can speak volumes. As you read their blog posts, are you listening to what they are saying?
At a recent conference, I reflected on a comment made by Jeff Turner (http://www.jeffturner.info/) He spoke about Twitter and gaining more followers through four things: listen, ask, reciprocate, comment/comment back. His comment caused me to analyze the authenticity of Twitter followers. I look at the people I follow, and the ones following me, and think about the value. If I am following someone that I respect and admire, but they are not following me, are they listening to my message? But if I am not following them, then how I am I listening to what they are saying? A true conundrum! So what can I do? I follow them because I want to listen to what they have to say. I believe that when I have something to say of value to them, they will hear it. Until then, I need to make sure their message is heard.
But now we reflect on the other side. Some people use social media to broadcast, they do not need me to follow them and retweet their message. Their message is loud enough and those that want to listen can hear it themselves. Their blog posts are usually longer broadcasts of the same message. And while they are broadcasting, many of them are not listening. So are their followers listening? Is their value and authenticity to their broadcast? It does not matter to me how many followers you have, what matters is the value of your message.
And when you do have something to say, hopefully people will be moved enough by it to add their own thoughts. Their comments become part of your message and add to its authenticity. And if you do receive a comment, treat it like a conversation. Does it require a response? We are all listening to each other. And as we build relationships and community, we need to continue to communicate. This open dialogue strengthens our bonds and validates our messages.




